Thursday, May 24, 2012
Every parent knows that raising kids is the most difficult, nerve racking and amazing job in the entire world. When a child grows up to be a happy, well-adjusted and successful member of society, the reward is abundant.
Children who have parents that have taken a proactive role in raising them are much more likely to instill the same important values they learned early in life. These parenting tips are quite simple and will teach you that raising kids to be great adults just isn’t that hard.
Learn to Listen
All too many parents tend to talk at their children as opposed to talk with their children. The beautiful art of actually listening to what a child has to say and taking it to heart doesn’t seem to exist for this generation of new parents. Your ability to truly hear and understand what your little ones have to say is extremely important to nearly every aspect of their emotional and personality development.
When your child comes to you and has something they need to tell you, you should stop what you are doing and pay attention. You can kneel down so that you are on eye level with your child. Allow him to speak without being interrupted and just listen.
You should also watch his body language. Parents oftentimes miss signals that can give them insight as to what is troubling their children. Only after your child is through speaking should you offer advice and suggestions. It is important to listen and watch for signals while raising kids. And it also strengthens child parent relationships.
Learning Is Fun
Children are like sponges and they are usually quick to learn new things. It is important that parents raising kids to be successful know how to make learning fun for them. Young children love to help out in the kitchen and this is one of the best places to teach them new things or help them with problem areas at school.
Math is easy to teach when you break it down into things kids use each day. You could use a sandwich or pie to explain fractions. By cutting them into sections it will make it simpler for the child to understand.
If a child is having trouble with reading, you can pull out your cookbook or print one off of the internet. Have the child read each ingredient and help with following the directions. This will improve his/her reading skills and help you prepare a meal. Keeping lessons fun is easy when you bring them into the kitchen.
Raising kids won’t always be fun and play. Parents must understand the concepts of child discipline. When child discipline is necessary, it is of the utmost importance that the punishment fit the crime. Oftentimes, a parent can simply talk to the child and explain why their actions were wrong and the child behavior will stop. Raising kids to be successful means that you will need to teach your children to take responsibility for their actions.
Parents should never to use child discipline in anger. You should always be calm when you need to punish your child. It is always best to tell the child that you love them but you were not happy with what they did. You must then explain why that child behavior is unacceptable and that it mustn’t be repeated again. Raising kids to be successful is easy so long as the parents carefully teach their children to know right from wrong and that every action has consequences.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Many years ago, parents used to instill their values into their children by drumming them in their heads or even paddling their bottoms in hope they remember proper behavior. Fortunately, society has evolved. Parents have learned that raising kids with solid values is easy, if done in a kinder and gentler fashion.
Start with Self-Esteem
Every parent should learn how to effectively boost their child’s self-esteem. Lots of mothers and fathers say things such as “You’re the best”, You’re so awesome” or even “You are absolutely perfect”. Although these compliments may seem to be a great way to let your child know how you feel at the time, you’re child’s mind picks up that you are there to make him or her happy.
It is much better to say things like “Wow, you should be very proud of yourself” or “You should be pleased with how hard you tried”. These are much better ways to improve your child’s self-esteem and your parent child relationship as well.
Learn to Listen
One of the most important values a child needs to know is how to listen. It is of the utmost importance that you, the parent knows how to listen and cares about what your child has to say. Without effective communication, the child parent relationship will suffer and your child simply won’t come to you when he needs to talk or has a problem.
Being a parent also means that you need to change with the times. Every generation seems to come up with a language or jargon of its own. In the past, kids used to say “hip”, “groovy”, “keen” and “wild”. Nowadays, kids use the terms “that sucks” or “sick” to describe things. Of course, banning the use of swear words is fine but if you want to be raisingchildren who will openly speak to you, it is wise to allow them to use the lingo that is current at the time.
Most children consistently want new toys, dolls or games. This is simply a fact of life that comes along with parenting kids. At an early age, children must learn to differentiate between their needs and their wants. Before going to any store, smart parents will talk to their children and explain exactly what items they will be shopping for that day.
If you are only planning to purchase groceries, tell the children that toys, candy and other wants are not on your list and you will only be buying the items that you absolutely need. This will help you to be raising kids who behave in a store, know the difference between wants and needs and will grow up to be financially responsible adults.
All too many people who are raising children tell them never to talk to strangers. Naturally, being a parent means that you should do all that you can to protect your children however; that phrase merely teaches them to fear everyone they don’t know.
It’s best to tell your children that everyone isn’t a good person so they should check with you before talking to any adult. This will strengthen the parent child relationship by teaching them to trust your judgment.
Raising Kids to Share
Let’s face it. Most children go into panic mode when someone else touches one of their playthings. This is a normal reaction. It isn’t easy being a parent to a child who refuses to share. You will need to teach him that sharing is a good thing to do.
An easy way to teach about sharing is by taking a trip to the library. The library not only helps parents to enjoy books but your child will also learn about sharing books and toys with others in the Children’s Room. The ability to share is a useful tool that he will use all of his life. Your trips to the library will also enhance the parent child bond. Bonding is essential for raising kids who are happy and well-adjusted individuals.