Teaching Kids the Significance of Humility

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

― C.S. Lewis

Parents teach their kids to work hard, to study more to achieve success, to learn new things to be competent in life. But in the race of imparting too many skills to kids; parents tend to forget that teaching children about the value of humility is just as essential as inspiring children to be successful.

Let go of 'me' attitude

Instill in your children the habit of sharing right from the beginning. You need to teach kids to drop the “Me” attitude. Else when this “I, Me, Myself” attitude will turn into selfishness in kids, you won't even realize.

If you are a mother of two kids, motivate your elder child to share his toys, clothes with the younger kid and encourage the younger one to help his older sibling with the chores.

Encourage kids to participate in charity work

Don't just preach. Lead by example. Take your children to a orphanage, a homeless shelter in your locality or charity events. Let kids donate their old clothes or toys to the less fortunate fact, take kids to the charity events as well.

Don't think that your kids may get depressed seeing people living in unsatisfactory conditions. You run the risk of spoiling your kids, if you keep them in luxury all the time. When your kids will witness you helping not-so-fortunate people, it will develop humility and empathy in kids.

Encourage kids to be grateful

Parenting help: Teach kids to learn to be grateful for everything. There are thousands of inspirational videos that inspire kids about the significance of gratitude. Encourage kids to say “Please” and “Thank you”. 

If your child has scored brownie points in a project, explain to him how his teachers have played a role in his achievement and that he must acknowledge their contribution.

Remember to teach your children to apologize when they make a mistake. Owning up to a mistake will help them build confidence and a strong sense of ownership and responsibility to do each task with energy, determination and effort.

Parenting children does not mean imposing values and ethics on the kids without explaining to them their true significance. You cannot teach humility to kids by bullying or scolding them. The best parenting advice is be a role model for your children and they will follow in your footsteps.

 

Parenting Help to Deal with Child Tantrums

Some children throw tantrum to show their disagreement, anger or frustration in response to a particular situation or decision, reaction of their parents. It is considered as a common behavioral trait to some extent. Many parents adopt either a dormant or a dominant approach for dealing with tantrums, but both these approaches can be harmful for your child’s healthy growth and development.

This parenting advice focuses on how to deal with tantrums in children:

Control your anger while dealing with child temper tantrums

You are apt to lose your temper in response to your child’s tantrum, it happens often and with most parents. It may evoke you to act stupid and commit mistakes, which is an inappropriate way to deal with child tantrums.

In such situations, you should tell your child, “though we are also not pleased with your anger or defiance; we are not treating you badly and giving you time and opportunity to bring improvement in your behavior.” A calm child can understand and learn things better.

Remember, in any condition children should never be deprived of love and care. A daily dose of affection and sense of belongingness is prescribed albeit with some strictness (only if required).

Never insult your child

Let your children express their feelings – pleasant or unpleasant. Don’t start punishing or criticizing straightway if they display indecent behavior that includes tantrums also. According to some research studies, insulting the children encourages negativity in them and they start to feel neglected and dejected leading to a rift in child parent relationships, which never heals.

Try to understand the fact that children tantrums are normal up to some age. Don’t make the things worse by overreacting or taking it too seriously.

Compliment and reward the desired behavior


Promise your child a chocolate and you will see him cleaning his room. Tempt your kid with a new video game and you will see him finding solace in books.


Rewards always work in childhood and the good habits developed in lieu of rewards accompany your child for rest of her life. Make sure you begin the reward system at an appropriate age. Don’t wait to the stage when he starts using other means like crying or throwing tantrums to meet his demands.